Personal Growth

The Easiest Way To Get Unstuck

May 30, 2013

photo by thigpen.robert

Sometimes we get stuck. Stuck in anger, or depression, or anxiety. We get stuck in a mindset, a negative way of dealing with life, or in relationships. All this happens and we don’t know how to get unstuck.

When we feel stuck, we replay words over and over in our minds, frustrating words, but never get clarity or any forward momentum. We don’t know how to change the stuck pattern we are in.

I used to feel stuck. Everyday I felt stuck in anger, depression, and regret. I felt stuck in my own head and was frustrated with the lack of answers I found there. I couldn’t seem to do what I really wanted to do, or get a fresh perspective. The same words would run through my head like a record, around, and around, and around. This went on for years.

One day, I stumbled upon an easy and effective way to get unstuck.

I got new words in my head.

I realized the words in my head were faulty, picked up here and there without thinking. They were cultivated until they grew into mighty vines full of unhealthy thinking.

So, I did a word swap. I started implanting new words into my mind.

Words create our reality. Words can make you feel sad or happy simply by saying them or thinking them. They can move you to action, or scare you into silence. Words can bring you to tears, or lift you high on the wings laughter. We live and breathe, not just on food, but on words.

When I realized this, I couldn’t get enough of new words! I started with podcasts, then books, then counseling. Then writing and then meeting new people.

All of these things exposed me to new words which started to seep deep into my unconscious mind.

I read books on relationships, God, communication, business, entrepreneurship, personal development, my Bible, parenting, trees, painting, design…  The list goes on and on. Whenever I felt stuck, I would go to the library and get out a book on the subject I was wrestling with. Or, if I didn’t have a chance to read, I would listen to a podcast (view a list of some of the books here).

I could often be found going for a drive or a walk, and listening to an audio book. The change of scenery and influx of new words never failed to get my mind out of its slump.

Before bed, I would write down words of thankfulness in my journal rather than words of frustration.

And something amazing happened. I got unstuck.

Words can change your life both in positive ways and negative ways. The Bible says “as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” Words are real. They move things, they move hearts, they move souls, they move us.

Get new words.

For a list of some of the books I read and podcasts I listened to, visit our resources page

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  • Reply Ann Musico May 30, 2013 at 6:51 am

    “Words create our reality.” Amen to that – and choosing to focus on the right ones can make all the difference between happiness and depression, success and failure! The words we hear impact us but the words we say to ourselves are most powerful so changing our self talk is so important. Great post as always Claudia – you are one of the most inspiring, enthusiastic and positive people I am privileged to know!

    • Reply Claudia Good May 30, 2013 at 8:12 pm

      Thank you Ann, you are dear and sweet! Always!

      i know you know this concept full well and practice it daily!

  • Reply Luke Roland June 1, 2013 at 6:05 am

    Really enjoyed reading this post! I find that changing my words is a daily task! It is always helpful to listen and read things that will feed you so that you can get unstuck. Thanks for sharing!

    • Reply Claudia Good June 2, 2013 at 3:35 pm

      Your welcome Luke! Thanks for your comment!

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