Making a decision is empowering. It gives us ownership. It gives us clarity. It gives us authority.
Too often we skirt around really committing to something. We fear being wrong. We fear failing. We fear being confronted. Or we fear being disliked.
If we give into that fear, we lack real power and energy in our lives. We let things get muddled up in our heads and we’re always second guessing everything.
It’s better to think through a situation, seek wise counsel, and then firmly commit to something.
For example, say you want to run a half marathon. Here are five ways you could communicate that:
1. It would be fun to run a half marathon.
2. Do you think I should try to run a half marathon?
3. I think I’m going to run a half marathon.
4. I think I will run a half marathon.
5. I decided to run a half marathon.
It’s easy to see the fifth option is strongest. It implies that you thought about, weighed the options, and now made a decision and are committed to it.
Sure, the others have their place sometimes. But I think we fall into the habit of using them much too often. When we do that, we miss out of the clarity and confidence that comes from actually deciding something and committing to it.
My challenge to you
Next time you’re about to say something like:
– “I think I’m going to…”
– “I think I will…”
– “I don’t think I’m going to…”
– “I don’t think I will…”
– “I think I’m just going to…”
Rather, say, “I decided…”
You’ll hold your head higher, have more spring in your step, and be taken more seriously.
Think through a situation where you can use the words “I decided” to communicate what you’re going to do. It can be something small like, “I decided to have a turkey sandwich for lunch.” Or, “I decided to spend 20 minutes reading tonight.” Whatever.
Let us know in the comment section what you came up with.
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