Wholehearted Human

* This is a post I never would have written 9 years ago. At that point in my life I was sick, depressed, and thought the problem was with everyone else. Thankfully, I have been shown a different way, and it has radically changed my life, my emotional health, and my friendships.

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The taker version of us wants to take, horde and hide in every situation. Take stuff, horde money, hide ourselves and our abilities, take from relationships. This version feels that other people owe them and should be helping/giving to help us rather than the opposite.

It waits to be called instead of calling, complains about gaps rather than filling them, waits to perfect their art before offering, and has a hard time offering forgiveness (both for themselves and others).

The giver (braver and healthier) version of us gives, offers in every situation. It calls first and doesn’t keep track, it sees gaps and fills them. It opens to love and is vulnerable but confident.

It forgives.

The giver knows we are all fragile and unfinished, as is our work. It recognizes perfect is a trick, an illusion, an ever moving target, but progress is not, so it offers and keeps offering now (imperfect but always improving).

The giver sees generosity as a way of living life (the best way) rather than a single act.

Why are we so shy of our art (that thing that we care about)?

Shy of claiming it’s brilliance and impact, unwilling to admit that it BURNS in us and LONGS to be taken seriously.

It’s a HOBBY, a side venture (at least this is the story we tell the world).

What a sad lie to believe.

There is creative in you and me just as there is blood in our veins and the thing we CARE about LONGS to be explored and lived out!

It wants to be a habit, not a MUSE. It longs to flow and keep flowing, and the more it is allowed to flow, the more it multiplies.

Creativity never runs out, it only increases, for creativity itself, creates.
On the journey with you!

This is the ranting that goes on in our heads whenever we do anything different or brave!

It’s never easy to fight the head game, but I’ve learned fear only needs a wave of hello, not our hearts, or our ideas.

You look, acknowledge, and then ignore and keep moving forward despite the tightening in your chest.

Brave is always better!

Dandelions are really, really good at spreading.

They each develop fluffy, irresistible heads that shatter into a thousand parachutes and waltz off into the wind. Perfectly suited for sailing on the breeze, they twist and swing until they reach earth again.

Predictably, not all of the fluffs land on dirt. Some get caught on screen doors, others land on wooden decks, get tangled in little girls’ ponytails, and crushed into pavement. But every fluff flies. None refuse for fear their flight might not be successful.

Surely there is a lesson here. How we could be fluffs, ready and willing to sail the breezes of our lives?

Remembering our words and thoughts spread. Our ideas give hope and courage. Our uniqueness gives perspective.

Some of our ideas might not work. They might land in water glasses, or birds nests, but sailing is still worth it. Waltzing in the wind gives us the wild courageous look we are all attracted to. We love the ones who are willing to fly. Why not be sailors ourselves?

What do you have inside you that needs to shatter and parachute on the breeze?

What can you offer that gives us hope and encouragement? Do you have knowledge, passion, or empathy?

We need you to fly!