Embarking on our entrepreneurial pursuits has actually been incredible for our marriage. Here are six things I have learned about supporting Michael and why it is so important.
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1. He needs encouragement from me: Michael, just as any human being that is breathing, needs encouragement from me. Every day, no exceptions!
2. We need to be a united front: No matter what, Michael and I are on the same team. We move together, we make decisions together. Both of us are all in, or we do not move forward!
3. Take interest: I take interest in Michael’s business ventures and hobbies. I ask questions and listen. It makes Michael happy, which makes me happy. When you take an interest in others, good things happen!
4. Let him make mistakes: We all need room to make a mistake. I trust Michael as he does me, so we give each other the freedom to make mistakes. I think this is a wonderful gift from any wife.
5. Communicate with the correct love language: Michael and I speak opposite love languages. When we found this out, it changed everything. Research your spouse’s love language and become fluent in it!
6. Talk positively about your husband to other people: I love talking about Michael, how proud I am of him. I keep the negative to myself. This has built a strong level of trust into our marriage. Try it, it will change your perspective!
Question: Any more tips?
All, very, very wonderful points, Claudia. As a Husband, I see the immense value in all of them. Men really need a “respect” from their wives in what they do, especially their work life and en-devours. It means so much to us. I can see that you honor Michael in that way. I have the love language book in my possession (for awhile now), but my wife and I haven’t read it yet.
It is truly, truly important as you say Michael!
I actually heard about the love languages in Andy Andrews book, “The Noticer” (I think you recommended that book to me a while ago so thanks!) He explained it in a way that really stuck out to me… in story format 😉
You are a very wise young woman and it’s wonderful to see the love and respect you have for each other! I agree with every one of your tips. I had one of Alex’s student’s parents tell me it was great that I supported him because it made it possible for him to do what he needed to. That is how I see my role – as his support. I have had friends who shared very personal things about their husbands and their relationships with me in the past. (More than I EVER wanted to know!) I remember one asking me why I never told her anything private – it’s because it’s private! Between me, him and God and no one else. I always feel extremely safe that Alex speaks well of me and protects our relationship and I do the same. So that’s one I would add – keep what’s private between you private. It happens to be my Alex’s birthday today – so I have a few things planned and then the kids will all be home this weekend to celebrate again!
Well said Ann! Truly, truly a gift to any marriage. You can tell the husbands who have supportive wives. It is written all over their faces and actions. What a gift you are to Alex!
Happy Birthday to Alex. Wishing him and your family abundant blessings and a joyous time with family! 🙂
Julie and I will celebrate our 22nd year of marriage in October.
She has lived out your list in every single one of those years. My ideas have become her ideas. My passions have become her passions.
She is by far one of the most selfless people I have ever met.
Thank you for putting up this list.
Glad it resonated with you James!
Wow!!! Your wife sounds awesome, and what a gift it is to have such support and unity! 22 years, that is just plain awesome. Congratulations!